What year were you born?
I was born in 1970. My mom has always told me when she brought me home she had put me on her bed. When my dad got home from work he asked: "Is that all there is?” I guess I was pretty tiny.
What was your life like growing up? What dreams and goals did you have for your life when you left High School?
I have two older brothers that as adults I adore, not so much as kids. My dad was often working out of town and rarely around. I would say we were struggling middle class. When I left high school I wanted to go to college but I didn't think I could afford it. I married my high school sweetheart a year later. We will celebrate our 35th anniversary next July. I always wanted to be a chef. I did end up in food service but in School nutrition.
Name at least one outstanding experience you have had in your life. How did this or these events affect you?
Having my babies. I loved the entire experience. Raising my kids has been the most emotionally challenging experience and greatest reward. My kids were very challenging so I am glad I have time for me now.
When in your life, so far, have you felt most confident and why?
I had bariatric surgery several years ago and lost a lot of weight. I would say I was confident after I had a tummy tuck and breast reduction/lift. My husband says he can tell I finally feel comfortable in my own skin.
Was there a time in your life where you felt ‘stuck’, unable to find the energy or strength to move forward or to make a big change? If so, can you share what it was &/or what helped you get past this road block?
I tragically lost my second baby and I was in a really bad place for a couple of years. I had to go to counseling to work through it. Depression is debilitating.
What is the one piece of advice would you give your younger self?
Yes, you do matter. You are loved, you do deserve to feel special, and stop the negative self talk.
How have your dreams and goals changed now that you are 40+.
I always wanted to have a career instead of a job. Now I want my exit strategy in place to retire.
Have your core values changed over time? What do you value now?
My values have always been the golden rule. Money was necessary but not the end all. I have the same values but money is a bigger focus because we like to travel and want to retire eventually. My friends and family have always been the most important thing to me.
Share an indulgence:
Cruises. My friend got us started the year before COVID, now we go multiple times a year.
How do other people to describe you or see you?
I would say I am well respected, helpful, kind, a little funny and very loyal. Caring.
What is your super power?
Positivity. I always try to look on the bright side. Encourage others, be thankful.
Can you share what your favourite part of your body is? Why?
My breasts. Since my reduction/lift, they are cute and point forward instead of down!
Do you like being 40+?
Yes, wouldn't go back for anything but I have this feeling that I am running out of time. I think this happens when we start aging.
Has your relationship with yourself changed as you have gotten older? How?
I actually have much more body positivity and like myself. I always try to remind myself when I am being mean to myself that I would love me as a friend and I would never talk to me that way.
What are you passionate about now? Ie: career, volunteer work, hobbies, how you spend your time. Please describe and include any links that you would like to share. Alternatively, If you are challenged in some way and unable to do what you love/wish to do, please share.
I love my family, adore my grandson but they moved away this summer so I don't get to see him. My hubby and I are very attached at the hip and love to travel. We have many hobbies but I am a quilter/seamstress mostly. My biggest challenges are physical. I have arthritis in my wrists and knees that are beginning to be an issue.
What goals/ambitions/dreams would you like to be working on that you haven’t had the opportunity to start on yet?
I would like to change jobs and try something new.
What would the title of your book be?
Bloom where you are planted.
What advice would you give your future self?
Stay up on new technology. Keep moving and stay kind. I don't want to be that snarky old lady with no filter.
How do you think women of your generation are perceived?
Hard working, outdated,frumpy
Are there any myths you would like to bust about the over 40s? If so, can you tell us about them?
I still enjoy intimacy, and I can wear whatever I want -don’t tell me I'm too old for something.
What advice do you have to offer to those who are approaching mid life or those that are in mid life and perhaps struggling with it.
We age, there is only one way around that so I always say any day on this side of the dirt is a good one.
Do you have a favourite book to recommend?
I love the Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon. I began reading her books before they were cool.
(Cue Crystal Gayle)
Do you have a favourite quote to share?
Bloom where you are planted.
Is there anything else you would like to add?
I am an open book. You know exactly what I am thinking, I have no poker face. I love to be silly, don't mind raunchy jokes, like to get a little tipsy sometimes and love to meet new people. My family and I are very punny people. My goal is not to focus on the bad, but to reward the good. I love telling someone when they are doing a great job!
How did this 40 Women Over 40 Project affect you?